Driving home one day I heard this on the radio; "Something, something, something, 5000 dollars." I quickly realized they were talking about egg donation. Although it completely weirds my whole family out, it got my seriously thinking. How many women find themselves wrapped up in life, trying to get to a stable point and figuring themselves out, then wake up and they are 35. This seems like something that could easily happen. Expecially in this generation when people aren't growing up as fast, when it's harder to be finacially independent, when it's rare to graduate college in 4 years. 35 seems so young to me! It's awful that it is already hard to have kids at that age.
Anyway I'm not sure how I feel about it, and ofcoarse the money would be great, but having someone running around out there with my genes seems...strange. I don't want a person wondering who their real mother is, mostly because I don't even feel like I could be considered that. But I think it is so messed up that the people who really take the time to get a career, and to find their true love can't have kids when they are often the ones who would make the best parents.
So I wanted to know what you guys thought about this. It's a strange thing, but it's a super amazing gift to give someone as well.
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- I am a lot of things, sometimes it drives me insane,and I think too much, but at the end of the day I am happy with who I am. I spend most of my time trying to understand this life, creating the person I would like to be, and learning. I always appreciate the little things, and I try to be better than, and to make better, the bad things.
Wow, I could say so much! But I'll just say one for now. Everybody has to make choices, and you can't have it all. People like to think they can, but really they can't. Sometimes your choices get made for you because of other ones you decided to make. And I am not against working mothers, but I would have to disagree with your statement, just because a women has a career doesn't make her a good mom, in fact in many cases the opposite is true. Kids shouldn't be raised in a daycare. I've worked in daycares, its sad. But some women are infertile for other reasons not just because they waited. Its hard to really know what you would do in a situation like that, but there are so many orphans out there who need homes, why not adopt? When they take your eggs, the harvest them, they take more than one, they fertalize more than one and often the implant more than one. Then what, you got octomom, or a bunch of abortions. They actually have embryo adoption now, where you adopt other people's fertalized eggs, because as I am sure you know, there is much controversy over the life there that has alreaady been created. Its a messy situation. Some things are just out of our hands, people are always trying to find a way to change the world to get what they want.
ReplyDeleteWell said. I definitely agree with you that kids should not be raised in daycare! That is the last thing I want! It is good to hear what you think. There is a part of me that says there's a plan and things probably happen for a reason, why mess with that? Plus that stuff starts to get weird! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThis is a toughie. Ask yourself:
ReplyDelete1. If money were the only reason you would do this and if so, is that all right with you.
i. They pay $5k, what do they charge buyers? (Yes, I said buyers because that is what this business is.)
2. Try to move yourself forward in time and think how you would feel about your decision.
i. Is it something you would be embarrassed or proud that you did?
ii. What bad may come of it and is it worth the price.
iii. What good may come of it and is it worth the price.
3. Will this do any physical damage to me that may prevent having my own children someday?
4. This can be a wonderful gift to someone but would it haunt you?
i. Would you feel you had any kind of claim on an off spring?
ii. Would you have a problem if this child wanted to contact you someday?
iii. Would you feel a strong desire/need to meet/know this child?
5. Fill in the blank with this one as there are probably many more questions to ask yourself.
Barbara, I really appreciate this more than you know! Most people will just force their opinion on you, very few people ask the right questions to help the other person make up their own mind. I really appreciate this and it helps a lot!
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